in

10 Phrases That Totally Show a Lack of Empathy

RDNE Stock project/Pexels

Sometimes, people just don’t get it. Their words can be so out of touch with reality that it’s hard to believe they’ve ever had a heart. These ten phrases are classic examples of how some folks manage to avoid empathy like it’s a plague. Get ready for some eye-rolling.

“It’s Not My Problem”

Antoni Shkraba/pexels

Ah, the classic “not my circus, not my monkeys” attitude. It’s a favorite for those who think showing no compassion makes them look tough. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. All it does is make you come off as a total robot, and most people don’t want that vibe.

“You Just Need to Toughen Up”

Yan Krukau/Pexels

Thanks for the sage advice, but being tough doesn’t mean ignoring your experience. This line basically says, “Your feelings don’t matter!” While the speaker might feel like a big shot saying it, the person on the receiving end is likely just feeling like a pile of mush.

“Why Can’t You Just Get Over It?”

Keira Burton/Pexels

This one is a top contender for the “most annoying” award. Sure, let me just flip a switch and make all my thoughts vanish. The phrase implies that healing is as easy as changing a channel, and honestly? That just makes the other person feel even more lost. 

“Everyone Goes Through Hard Times”

SHVETS production/Pexels

Well, that’s a newsflash. Of course, we all have our issues, but that doesn’t mean you can brush off their struggles like they were nothing. Dismissing another’s pain like this is like saying, “Hey, don’t worry about your broken leg; everyone gets hurt sometimes!” It’s not really helpful, is it?

“You’re Just Being Dramatic”

Andrea Piacquadio/Pexels

For those who can’t handle real emotions, this is it. They simply mean that valid feelings are justa play for attention. Rather than offering support, the speaker chose to speak of emotions as if they were a silly soap opera plot. Sadly, feelings are real, and they deserve respect.

“I Can’t Help You with That”

Gustavo Fring/Pexels

Such generosity is like waving a big “stay away” sign. In place of lending a hand when a person is struggling, this human is pulling a hard pass. If someone wants to wear the crown for the “Most Unhelpful Person,” this is what they would probably say most of the time.

“You Should Focus on the Positive”

SHVETS production/pexels

This “positive” advice might come from a good place, but it usually ends up disregarding the sufferer’s real sentiments. Saying “focus on the positive” is like handing them a blindfold during a storm. Emotions can’t just be wished away, so try a little understanding instead.

“That’s Not a Big Deal”

Kaboompics.com/Pexels

Oh really? Tell that to the person who’s hurting, and it will be the ultimate mood dumper. How do they know it’s not a big deal? Would you say, “Pfft, who cares?” if your car breaks down? Even if you can’t solve the problem, saying stuff like this is only making it worse.

“Just Move On Already”

MART PRODUCTION/Pexels

Here’s a classic impatience move: “Just move on already,” which translates to “emotional healing should come with a deadline,” is pretty unrealistic. Telling someone that is like asking them to jump through hoops while juggling. People need to understand that it can lead to more overthinking and regretting.

“Stop Being So Sensitive”

Liza Summer/Pexels

This phrase often comes from those who think being sensitive is a sign of weakness. Rather than creating a safe space for emotions, it shames the other person for expressing their sentiments. Remember, being sensitive is part of being human, and it’s okay to feel, reciprocate, and help.

Written by Peterson Sorenson

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *