Lisa O
If you’ve started to feel like something’s off in your relationship with a guy, and it’s definitely not for the better, you’ll want to know how to spot the signs that it might be over for him. That said, let’s make it clear right away—every relationship goes through ups and downs as it grows; those downs aren’t necessarily big problems. Here are 15 signs that a relationship may be over:
They stopped texting or calling as much.
If you’ve noticed that the texts and calls have dropped off a lot over the past couple of weeks, that could be a sign something’s up. If you used to get sweet “good morning” or “good night” texts, and now they’ve stopped, it’s definitely worth paying attention to. Just keep in mind, at the start of a relationship, people usually text more than they would later on.
The physical connection feels weaker.
If you had an active sex life and now it’s happening a lot less than it used to, that could be a sign things aren’t great. Of course, it can also just be the natural way relationships evolve, especially for older couples. But if your partner has stopped initiating or seems less interested in you physically, and they’re not dealing with a lot of stress or pressure, that’s something you’ll definitely want to take note of.
You’re always the one making plans.
If it feels like you’re always the one making the effort to connect, it could be a pretty strong sign they’re losing interest. Keep in mind though, as a relationship gets more serious, you’ll naturally spend more time just living together and less time doing the usual dating things. But if you’re always the one planning and reaching out, that’s not a good sign.
They’re more focused more on their own needs.
When someone is really into you or in love, they’ll care about your well-being and usually go out of their way to make sure you’re taken care of. If they used to do this but now seem to have stopped, that could be a sign something’s not right. But also, if they’ve never been able to “get it right” with you, they’ll eventually lose interest in putting in the effort.
They don’t ask about your life anymore.
The more someone is into you and the deeper they fall in love, the more they’ll want to know about you and your life. On the flip side, remember that people can also get really focused on work or personal issues so there might be times when they’re less available in the relationship. It’s usually just a temporary thing while they deal with stuff.
They’ve stopped talking about the future.
When someone is connected, they’ll talk about future plans that involve you. If they used to bring up the future and now they don’t, it could be a sign they’ve checked out. Also, if you bring up plans while things are shaky and they stay noncommittal, that’s a red flag that your partner may not be as invested anymore.
They don’t consider your needs in decisions.
It can start to feel like their needs come first and yours don’t matter. While it’s true that people tend to focus more on their own needs, someone who’s really in love will usually try to balance both their needs and yours when making decisions. If that’s missing, something is definitely off.
They complain but don’t want to fix things.
If someone starts pointing out things they don’t like about the relationship but doesn’t want to fix them with you, that’s something to take seriously. If they’re saying things like they wish you had more fun together or they wish you were more physically close, just know it’s not your fault, and you’re not responsible. At the same time, every couple needs to work through their issues so that both people feel happy and satisfied.
They’re always busy with other things.
Your partner may keep saying they’re tied up with work or have plans with their friends that don’t include you. When you’re together, they might prefer doing their own thing rather than spending time with you. And if you’re doing something together, they could easily get distracted and seem like they’re not fully there.
You don’t feel like a priority.
When someone is really into you, their love and attention will make you feel special—you’ll know how much you mean to them. If your better half consistently makes you feel like a priority, the relationship will get stronger. On the flip side, if you start feeling like you’re unimportant, and that feeling is happening more often than before, it could be a sign that they’re losing interest.
Something just feels off.
Gut feeling is often right so if you feel like something’s changed or just doesn’t feel right, you might be onto something. However, sometimes, personal insecurities can also make you more sensitive and lead you to look for signs of trouble in the relationship, even when there’s nothing wrong.
You’re fighting more often.
One clear sign that the relationship might be over for your partner is if the arguments between you two have gotten more frequent and intense, and they no longer seem interested in working through them. If the resentment builds up and they start feeling like the problems are too big to fix, it could mean that the end is on the horizon.
You don’t trust their words anymore.
Someone who’s aware won’t outright lie to you, but they might not always give you the whole truth. If your partner has checked out of the relationship but hasn’t fully admitted it to themselves, they might start coming up with excuses or reasons for not following through on their plans or commitments. When the relationship no longer excites them, they won’t feel as bothered about letting you down.
Conversations feel more about logistics.
While some people may naturally be less talkative, everyone wants to feel seen, heard, and understood. They also want to know about their partners. In a strong relationship, you both share regular, deep conversations. But if your talks have started to focus only on everyday details, and the meaningful chats are disappearing, your partner might be pulling away.
The emotional connection is fading.
Emotional expression is more in line with feminine energy, so women often crave it more than men. But for any close relationship to work, both people need to feel like they can truly open up to each other. If you had an emotional connection and now it feels like you both can’t be real or authentic with each other anymore, your relationship might be going through a rough patch.
